What it takes to Make a Great Marriage

I tried using the Golden Rule to improve my marriage but learned that the Platinum Rule is what makes a marriage great.

Photo by Chuck Black courtesy of Chuck Black Photography

My wife and I once attended an event for a group that promoted marriages.They told us we could become marriage counsels after we had been married for twenty years.That seemed a ridiculously long time, but it took me about that long to learn the most important lesson about a good marriage.

I approached my marriage by the Golden Rule; “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”So I treated my wife the way I wanted her to treat me.It was like I was trying to teach her how I wanted her to act towards me.What I failed to recognize was that she was doing the same to me.To take our relationship to the next level, I need to learn the Platinum Rule.

Illustration by Chuck Black courtesy of Chuck Black Photography

The Golden Rule

My wife and I were in a low spot in our relationship.Nothing was wrong, but things were not right either.Twin boys followed eighteen months later by a baby girl had been more blessings than we had dared dream of.But those three young children were a lot of…